最近　私は　この日本の　ﾄﾞﾅﾏ みます。I recently watched this japanese drama. And it raised a quite interesting question about why that man around 40's is not gonna marry. He always insists the advantage of being a single and argues that marriage could bring those good things of being single to an end. He just could not help himself falling in love with a doctor finally, though he tried to deny that fact even in front of that doctor.  Sometimes, people live in the life or framework set by others. What you did before will form part of others' viewpoint on you, and finally which kind of person you are will be judged by that and a frame is finally set in others' viewpoint. And since you are always judged by others via these, you will gradually force youself to live in that way and try to live in that frame...you will even want not to break it down but just keep it like that...but is that way really what we want to live in, it realy depends on. But one thing is for sure, we might lose something in this way. That's true. Life is always a trade-off anyway...